my "first time"

Eharmony date number 1.

Wow. I feel like I shouldn't really be blogging yet, I've only just gotten home but what a flurry of information I've collected on this Thursday Evening. Turns out, bachelor #1 has done this eharmony date a time or two and I was, as he coined it, an "ehamony virgin". It had been awhile since I'd been considered anything close to that so I took it. But here is what I'll say overall about my "first time" :

We all create our own realities. In my mind this person was very laid back. He was funny and casual. In person he was wiry, he was anxious, he was perhaps nervous. He was very interested, and told me so, by saying he was ready to spend everyday of the rest of his life with me. I mean, that's what eharmony is focused on, forever, however I happen to think there is a method to this madness. (Obviously I'm a methodical person).

Men, if you're listening, don't say things like, "This is the last time I'm going to see you, isn't it?" Don't drink more than 2 alcoholic beverages. And certainly don't pump a girls boobs into your chest when you are hugging her good night, one pump is terrible and 2 is almost unforgivable - ESPECIALLY if you have just insinuated that you suspect you will not be getting another chance to "date" her.

Do, continue to compliment your date on things they wrote in their profile or things you have in common. Do ASK QUESTIONS when you are nervous, rather than prattling on and on and on and then telling your date, "I talk too much, maybe you should talk a little bit." It's called, engage. Which is a term for connecting I'm sure. And when you feel comfortable enough to tell your date that you call your mother and cry about not having a girlfriend, realize that your date has done that a MILLION times to her mother too, but the first date is TOO SOON to tell her that as a man you do that too. Am I wrong?

As I am writing this, I realize all of his faux paus could have easily been an experience that I would or will have in the future. He took one for the team. This is so hard to write about because everything is the blanket. His awkwardness was my awkwardness, his over-talkativeness is also mine. My quiet reserved observations were his. His dead dog "Lucky" however, was just his dog that got hit by a car, not mine. We have such similar backgrounds, and I did feel very comfortable around him, although I'm not sure if that was my second cocktail talking. Either way, a second date will be in our future. I'm giving it at least 3 dates. If my step mom can get past (and talk openly about) my dad's over blinking "syndrome" I am excited to see what could happen between me and my overtalking, double boob pump, boy.