I've been watching Sex in the City on blast for like 2 weeks now and after almost every episode I think..."That's EXACTLY how it is to be single." There are a few that really take the cake, like Season 1 episode 3, bay of married pigs and the episode I just finished watching, Season 5, episode 8, I love a charade. This one scene in particular spoke so much truth that I watched it twice before deciding to write it down for good measure. So please enjoy the show :
Carrie talking to a new boy she is interested in about her ex and relationships :
'There was the merging of the things, then the dividing of the things, then the things left behind that you don't want to give back because that seems mean, and you don't want to throw them away...because it's all you have left. And it gets harder as we get older...because we're not dating wildly inappropriate people anymore. You know, there's no "shew, glad that's over" And after every breakup I tell myself, I'm never doing this again. It's too, it's too hard. I mean how many of these things can one person survive??
Then the boy immediately makes an excuse to leave, rips his jacket out from under the both of them to get on his motorcycle and races away.
She thinks she's been "emotionally slutty" by sharing too much too soon.
He eventually returns and admits that after talking about all that, he just didn't know if he could handle all of that again, as he himself just got out of a relationship.
The biggest reason why this got to me, was because that is the meat of being single. That is the pre-next relationship, dating emotional sandwich that I have had once or twice as a happy hour snack. I've experienced all of that, drawn out for days, which I just watched happen in the last 20 minutes and so it needed to be documented.
And the capacity for emotion and loving and sadness and hope that I and we all possess as humans captured in a moment I felt while watching this and being grateful for the life I have now.
The human experience is nothing without validation. I felt that.
I have to also add...that contrasting with the statements about what is hard about putting your heart out there, it perfectly shows all the reasons why people do, to be with someone that makes you laugh and share good times with. Yay Sex in the City - thanks.
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